So my friend Brandi and I started this new parenting program that was offered at my church. It's called Love and Logic. And I hadn't really ever heard of it. But as I've continued to go through the program, it is amazing to me just how many people use it. It's a tool that teacher's use, it's a training that all of the headstart therapists and counselors use, and now it's what the Warkentins use.
I must admit, I was skeptical. I am not a huge fan of being told I'm doing things wrong. But as I listened and put things into practice each week, I started to realize that this system really works.
Basically the gist of it is teaching kids how to make their own choices. Choices that won't affect the state of the union, but still allow THEM to be in control of their decisions. And it let's empathy and consequences from those choices do the teaching. It's a really interesting method and I have to say, it really works.
Of course there are a lot of methods that are for older children, and most of the reasoning is completely lost on my 2-year-old but I AM teaching him to make his own decisions. Which, to my surprise, he is having so much trouble with.
I really like this method of parenting because it weighs very heavily on MY attitude, the tone that I set, and it forces me to be calm and rational. Ofcourse sometimes I am not very calm, Love and Logic has an answer for that too: When you don't know what to say.... delay.
Delaying a punishment and making your kid wait it out not only helps you calm down, but it also makes them think about the consequences of their actions. What? Why didn't I think of that?
If you're looking for an affective way to discipline but also to help your children be decisive and understand consequences, I highly reccomend this program. For more information go to:
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
I must admit, I was skeptical. I am not a huge fan of being told I'm doing things wrong. But as I listened and put things into practice each week, I started to realize that this system really works.
Basically the gist of it is teaching kids how to make their own choices. Choices that won't affect the state of the union, but still allow THEM to be in control of their decisions. And it let's empathy and consequences from those choices do the teaching. It's a really interesting method and I have to say, it really works.
Of course there are a lot of methods that are for older children, and most of the reasoning is completely lost on my 2-year-old but I AM teaching him to make his own decisions. Which, to my surprise, he is having so much trouble with.
I really like this method of parenting because it weighs very heavily on MY attitude, the tone that I set, and it forces me to be calm and rational. Ofcourse sometimes I am not very calm, Love and Logic has an answer for that too: When you don't know what to say.... delay.
Delaying a punishment and making your kid wait it out not only helps you calm down, but it also makes them think about the consequences of their actions. What? Why didn't I think of that?
If you're looking for an affective way to discipline but also to help your children be decisive and understand consequences, I highly reccomend this program. For more information go to:
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
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2 comments:
it's genius. I went to a conference, and used some of it in my classroom. it was so great.
I will definitely be using more of it when Steiger gets a little older.
I am looking into Love and Logic... something has to change- the little love of my life just drains me... he is exhausting... driving me nuts...
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